THE BAD MOTHER'S REVENGE
DEATH BY TEENAGER
BY SONIA NEALE
There are many informative parenting books out there that offer support on how to raise well-balanced children and teenagers....these books are not any of them
Decades before I became a psychotherapist, I was a mother of three small children. When my children were in primary school and I had time on my hands, myself and a couple of friends were drinking wine at my house and we thought it would be a laugh to call ourselves the “Bad Mother’s Club.” We thought, under the influence of some Jacob’s Creek, that it would be an even better idea to call the local community newspaper and get our photo in the paper, which we did. The following week while I was out, my then twelve year old daughter
took a phone call and said to me, that a radio station had rung me.
“What radio station?” I asked
“What did they say?” I ASKED
“Did you get the number?” I begged
So I rang a few radio stations in Western Australia, and told them what happened and was it them? No they said, but 6PR said they loved the idea, so come on air and have a chat with us. I did and that was so much fun.
Then I rang ABC720 Perth and the receptionist said, “send an email to Rosemary Greenham, Producer of Saturday Breakfast. So I did, and I told her of how my children, especially my daughter was driving me potty and that if I stood on one more lego piece I would chuck the whole lot in the bin.
I also added the story of when I would wake up in the middle of the night drenched in a cold sweat because my then four year old daughter could not colour inside the lines. I took her to the Parent Help Centre. The counsellor told me I needed to calm my farm by the time she was of school age, otherwise I would be in for a very rocky time. When my two boys arrived on the scene I could not wrap my head around the fact that boys just don’t do colouring in, and I solved the problem by colouring in for them and pinning it on the fridge under their names. No-one was ever the wiser. Then, after a few more wines with the girls, loose lips sink ships, I found out that all the other mothers did exactly the same thing.
Rosemary rang me, luckily I answered. She offered me a regular radio spot on Saturday Breakfast. She had resonated with the sheer desperation we mothers feel, and we shared similar stories of the sane and insane consequences of motherhood. This four year relationship on radio birthed two books, The Bad Mother’s Revenge (2006) and Death by Teenager (2009) both published by ABC Books, now Harper Collins Australia.
Both books are available in ebook and kindle form from
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SONIA NEALE B. ARTS (PSYCH/COUNSELLING)
REGISTERED COUNSELLOR PSYCHOTHERAPIST
MEMBER OF AUSTRALIAN COUNSELLING ASSOCIATION (LEVEL 2)
I have an extensive history and experience in community mental health and I have worked with people from a variety of backgrounds. I earned my double major degree in Psychology and Counselling from Edith Cowan University and received my Mental Health Cert IV at Midland TAFE.
BORDERLINE PERSONALITY DISORDER
I was awarded The SANE Hocking Fellowship in 2014 where I studied and researched Borderline Personality Disorder and other mental health conditions overseas, including USA, Canada and the UK. I completed a training course facilitated by Linda Dimeff in Dialectical Behaviour Therapy in 2015.
I also have a special interest in couples counselling and family dynamics and have completed an Intensive Training Course in Relationship and Family Therapy at William Street Therapy Centre. My passion and commitment is to the mental health and well-being of all couples.
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AUSTRALIA COUNSELLING INTERVIEW
Back in 2005, I was given a Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) diagnosis. In the below podcast I talk to Clinton Power from Australia Counselling about my experience of diagnosis to recovery and beyond so I could have (as Marsha Linehan so eloquently put it) “A life worth living.”
Not only that, I made BPD my purpose and my passion. Please have a listen.
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BPD and Mental Health Websites
These two websites are a favourite for mental health professionals giving readers a huge variety of blogs written by mental health professionals and clients
Three noteworthy articles from The Conversation
The vision of the Australian Borderline Personality Disorder Foundation is to encourage a positive culture around BPD and the ready availability and accessibility of appropriate services for people with BPD and those that care for them.
At the bottom of the page on this website you can download Meeting the Challenge Making the Difference. This is a very detailed comprehensive book on how mental health professionals can work with people with BPD but written in easily accessible and readable language.
Out of the FOG is an information site and support group offering help to family members and loved-ones of people who suffer from personality disorders. Out of the FOG was written and developed by people who have experienced a relationship with a family member, spouse or partner who suffers from a Personality Disorder.
Other helpful BPD websites
“Courage is resistance to fear, mastery of fear, not absence of fear”
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